Close your eyes and relax your body. Remember a time when you were
very happy, when you felt absolutely great! Actually step into the experience
and feel the feelings that you actually felt at that time. Remember as many
details as possible and feel the experience as vividly as possible. Now make a
fist with your right hand and squeeze it tight at the height of your good
memories. Already you are feeling better, but you can feel even better. Now
remember an experience of being intensely, but pleasantly intoxicated. Again
actually relive the experience with as many details and feelings as you can
remember. Actually be there. Feel the change in your body and emotions. At the
height of the sensations, again squeeze your right fist tightly. Now relax your
fist and come back to normal awareness. Wait until you have completedy
returned to your usual state. Then without closing your eyes or relaxing,
squeexe your right fist again. Notice the effect. If you can feel that good
just by squeezing your right fist, and that's only the beginning of what you
can do, why would you spend all that money and take all that risk to use drugs,
alcohol or food to do the same thing?
You are trapped by addiction when you believeyour desire is
absolutely necessary for your happinessand you can't imagine being happy
without it. So, when you don't have it, you suffer. Most of this suffering can
be eliminated through awareness, letting go and reprogramming your beliefs.
Usually being addicted to something originally had some sort of positive
intention behind it. You wanted to get loved and accepted, fed, relaxed,
rested, or relieved of pain and chose a way to do it that seemed to work. But
when it worked, you then wanted to get more of it and the behavior that
produced the pleasure or relieved the pain became a habit. Pretty soon you
developed the belief that that was the only way to fulfill your desire, and you
were hooked.
In order to get free of your addiction, you need to honor your original
intention to feel good. Its not the intention that doesn't work for you, its
the negative consquences of the method you use to satisfy your desires. If you
want to feel pleasureably fed, but you only feel satisfied when you eat
chocolate, and chocolate makes you overweight and gives you acne, that's a
harmful addiction. You must find other ways to feel just as good by eating
something that gives you a similar feeling without the negative consequences.
This idea is why diet soda is so popular. It supposedly eliminates the negative
consequences of eating sugar, while preserving the satisfaction of the original
addiction to the sweet taste and stimulation of caffeine. A better way is to
try a variety of more healthful foods which may substitute for the addictive
food, like carob powder instead of chocolate, or natural sweeteners instead of
white sugar. What is even better is to find out what the feeling of eating
chocolate is a substitute for, like being loved or accepted, and try to
incorporate more of the real thing in your life. If that isn't possible, or
would lead to another addiction, then try to generate the state you desire
internally through memory, visualization, guided imagery and meditation as
above. These processes will also tend to help your desired state to manifest
more easily in the outer world, if that is where you would enjoy it more. If
you can go back to the time when the addiction started and find out what was
needed then, you may be able to bring that into your life now, thereby
satisfying the original intention. For instance, one person we treated for
smoking addiction started smoking in order to be accepted by her peers when she
was a teen-ager. But she found now that smoking actually caused her rejection
by her friends. When she focused on accepting herself more and developing new
and positive ways to be accepted by others, the smoking was no longer
necessary.