Taking an honest look at whether your current work is right for you can be
enlightening but involves risking. We can guarantee that, despite the initial
discomfort and insecurity and taking
a leap, you will undoubtedly be happier doing what you love. One of our
patients, who is 39 and a single mother, has had a very well-paying management
job for the last 8 years which has amply
supported herself and her daughter. Now, having dealt effectively with her own
alcoholism, she
finds that she is surrounded in her work by "sloppy drunks". Because of the
tremendous jumps in her own consciousness and self-esteem, it is clear to her
that she needs to leave her financially secure job. She has decided to do do
exactly what her inner self has dreamed of-and open a beautiful flower shop.
Sometimes people may do work which inherently isn't financially
profitable, but which produces such help for others or joy in other people's
lives that it is well worth whatever it takes to do, like working with
handicapped, poor or ill people, and helping them grow, solve problems and have
greater happiness. This kind of service-oriented work can contribute a great
sense of meaning or purpose to your life, and the internal pleasure can be
ecstatic! Few people who really commit themselves to service ever have to
worry about receiving what they need for their own survival. Prime examples of
this approach to life can be seen in Mother Teresa and her followers, Gandhi,
Martin Luther King, Albert Schweitzer and others who selflessly dedicate their
life for the benefit of others. It is important to remember that prosperity
occurs in the heart as well as the bank account and that a high-paying job may
not bring you ultimate happiness unless it's in harmony with your own
mission.
It is extremely important that whatever work you do allows you to feel
good about yourself.
Fred, A 48 year-old man recently came to us specifically for our style of
career counseling. He was a former computer programmer turned truck driver and
described the feeling of satisfaction and responsibility her experienced after
having loaded a huge truck with valuable merchandise, knowing that he was
trustworthy and would deliver it safely into the proper hands. He described a
much more tangible type of job satisfaction than he had previously as a
programmer. He came to us because he wondered about soloing in his driving as
opposed to sharing the driving with his wife whose company he greatly enjoyed
because he wanted more personal space. We led him into the future so that he
could experience the two different options and see how he would feel about it a
year later. It not only became clear that he would much rather continue driving
with his wife because if he drove alone, he'd push himself straight through and
burn out, but also realized that, in either case, he'd be bored with truck
driving after a year. He found the session very valuable and felt fine about
finding something else he enjoyed doing when he did tire of driving.
Another of our , Barbara, is a 42 year-old actress and singer turned
housewife and mom. Her self-worth was severely shaken when neither she or her
husband, a film producer, could find work in their profession after moving to
Seattle from L.A. Her unhappiness manifested itself in a uterine fibroid and
bleeding. In her darkest moments, we encouraged her to spend some time every
day singing, even if it were in the shower. It is very, very important to
continue to see yourself doing just what you want to, even though it may not be
manifesting at the moment. As hard as it is for all of us to remember, the
Universe does have its own sense of timing. Barbara hung in there, at
times unemployed, at other times baking chocolate chip cookies for a living.
She recently got a wonderful part in a local theatrical production and is on
her way up again.